Closed Minds Should Come with Closed Mouths

 according to www.thefreedictionary.com:

Adj.

1.

close-minded - not ready to receive to new ideas

The moment we open our mouth and say something, let's at least ask ourselves if we're not being closed-minded persons. Are we not too focused on our own points of view and perceptions?

I believe that the main goal whenever we communicate is to achieve MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING. Now, how possible could that be  for people who talk with minds closed? I don't mean to sound righteous here because even myself sometimes commits such mistake of focusing on my own opinion or points of view. Well, yeah, it's a good feeling that we express ourselves or win arguments, but as I continue living as a communication student, I have realized that it isn't all about winning arguments which matters. What's really important is that there is understanding between/among parties, learned from others' ideas, and accepted which has to be accepted.

“It does take great maturity to understand that the opinion we are arguing for is merely the hypothesis we favor, necessarily imperfect, probably transitory, which only very limited minds can declare to be a certainty or a truth.” 

-Milan Kundera, Encounter

Think Before You Speak

"Think before you speak."  this line is not new to almost everybody but is still a kinda rare practice. We know just what words could do; we don't have to point those things out. We know just how capable words are to break people's hearts, and how irreversible they are. We can't take back the words we've already expressed just when we realize they weren't supposed to be said. Is the freedom of speech all that really matters?

Whenever we try to say something, let's ask ourselves our real intention of expressing what we have.  In the first place, why do we say such things anyway? Of course we've got intentions:) they might be good as fixing relationship, inspiring people, informing others, etc. They might also be as bad or unnecessary as just really trying to impress, talk about people who doesn't really matter in our lives, hurt other people's feelings, etc.

Whether we're in pain or joy, let us always think before we speak. Our heart can be too weak or too strong to be let it working on its own; we have our brains, they shouldn't be eaten by zombies... Before we let our heart do all the talking, we must let our brain do the editing.

STATUS: TEMPORARILY SHUT DOWN

"Sometimes problems don't require a solution to solve them; instead, they require maturity to outgrow them."

                                                                                                           -Steve Maraboli

                There will be those very few times that her heart is at its weakest and her mind wanders immeasurably far.  Today, she admits how tired she is of all these… tired of seeing nobody who would understand, tired of failing, tired of hurting. Then she would curse her life, think immaturely miserable, burst her emotions, and hate herself.  However, she knows how that can’t last long. At the back of her mind is the never dying principle she made a long, long time ago˗˗ Do not give up. She knows exactly that the pain might stay long; but she can’t let that pain control her.

                 Once in a while, just let the pain. There are times that I just choose to be totally vulnerable, let my weakness take over and decide to put my guards down for a moment. This does not mean surrendering or being bitter; it’s just that it’s the best way I know to be able to continue and fight again. There has to be those times wherein I need to let the wounds bleed then cure them. I believe it’s necessary that we let ourselves feel the pain, realize and reflect before letting the pain go; having a better self just follows if you would just allow.

                We all need such moment of reflecting, a moment on your own. When you’re on for happiness, you have to expect pain as well. It isn’t wrong to be weak for a while; it’s just proof that the painful reality hasn’t made your heart a stone yet. Be happy… really, really happy, and you can only do that if you’ve understood, accepted and let go of the pain.