Closed Minds Should Come with Closed Mouths

 according to www.thefreedictionary.com:

Adj.

1.

close-minded - not ready to receive to new ideas

The moment we open our mouth and say something, let's at least ask ourselves if we're not being closed-minded persons. Are we not too focused on our own points of view and perceptions?

I believe that the main goal whenever we communicate is to achieve MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING. Now, how possible could that be  for people who talk with minds closed? I don't mean to sound righteous here because even myself sometimes commits such mistake of focusing on my own opinion or points of view. Well, yeah, it's a good feeling that we express ourselves or win arguments, but as I continue living as a communication student, I have realized that it isn't all about winning arguments which matters. What's really important is that there is understanding between/among parties, learned from others' ideas, and accepted which has to be accepted.

“It does take great maturity to understand that the opinion we are arguing for is merely the hypothesis we favor, necessarily imperfect, probably transitory, which only very limited minds can declare to be a certainty or a truth.” 

-Milan Kundera, Encounter

Think Before You Speak

"Think before you speak."  this line is not new to almost everybody but is still a kinda rare practice. We know just what words could do; we don't have to point those things out. We know just how capable words are to break people's hearts, and how irreversible they are. We can't take back the words we've already expressed just when we realize they weren't supposed to be said. Is the freedom of speech all that really matters?

Whenever we try to say something, let's ask ourselves our real intention of expressing what we have.  In the first place, why do we say such things anyway? Of course we've got intentions:) they might be good as fixing relationship, inspiring people, informing others, etc. They might also be as bad or unnecessary as just really trying to impress, talk about people who doesn't really matter in our lives, hurt other people's feelings, etc.

Whether we're in pain or joy, let us always think before we speak. Our heart can be too weak or too strong to be let it working on its own; we have our brains, they shouldn't be eaten by zombies... Before we let our heart do all the talking, we must let our brain do the editing.